Baby Remy and his gift to his grieving grandparents!


 

         It’s just now that we are able to share this wonderful news that our oldest son Brian and his beautiful wife of 8 years have just given us our 5th grandchild.


         This month is always hard and as the time gets closer & closer to August 22nd {the anniversary of Connors death}, the pressure and sorrow is intense.  Saturday morning was no different than the last 6 years... Many tears had already been shed that morning...

 

Sometime I’ll write about the events of that day 6 years ago.

 

         At 12:29pm Saturday August 22, 2020 {the 6th Anniversary of Connor’s death} Brian texted “Baby’s here”.  I ran into the other room where Greg was… barely able to read him the text!  They would call when things calmed down a bit… so I went back to working on Genealogy {insert eye roll here}… EXCEPT now I had a VERY important entry to make:

 

Remy Isaac Thredgold b. 22 Aug 2020, weighing 9lbs 2oz!

 

         I spent the next hour+ just in heavy tears, but I couldn’t define what I was really feeling… All I knew was that GOD was in charge, and he knew Remy had to come… and had to come on this day of intense sorrow for us.  I know Remy’s birth will not overshadow or remove the grief of Connor… but now there is one good reason to be happy on that day as well as to remember Connor.

 

         We still have some of the lingering feelings from this last weekend…

and even when we spoke to Brian & Alayna later that evening we didn’t remind them what day Remy’s birthday also was… it wasn’t until Sunday after Brian talked with Brandon, that Brandon reminded him of what day Saturday was… for Brian & Alayna the whole week was kind of a blur and I don’t blame them for thinking the day of Connor’s death was later in the month.  I am grateful they were only thinking of this sweet baby boy that day.

 

         Which brings me to the other thing that occurred to me.  Some of you may know that I was born on January 4th… some of you may even know that on MY 9th BIRTHDAY, my grandfather died!!  What struck me in thinking of Remy’s birth is that he now shares a “transition date” with his uncle Connor.  I share a “transition date” with my grandfather.  You see, my grandfather was serving a mission in Brazil when he passed away… so not only do we all share dates, we all share a mission connection…  What is even more amazing is that in all the years I’ve KNOWN I share this date with my grandfather… Sunday was the first time I realized that in all of my birthdays from age 10 until now… when my mom and grandmother were alive they NEVER once mentioned that they were sad or overwhelmed on MY birthday which had to be a reminder for both of them of the death of their father and husband! 

 

They didn’t hold back for birthdays or overshadow my birthdays with their grief!  Of course I was born BEFORE my grandfather died… Connor died before Remy was born… but as with the other 4 grandchildren I hope Remy knows how Connor would have and DOES love him… how Connor LOVED Aria and Blake before he ever left on his Mission and before he “Returned Home”.  I’m sure Remy was able to meet Connor even before he came here to be with Brian & Alayna and somehow in my grateful little heart… I’m sure Remy was sent off on his “transition date” with much love & trust from Heavenly Father and from his Uncle Connor!!

 

         Welcome baby Remy, you will always be a reminder of God’s love and Connor’s sense of humor and desire for tradition!  We are grateful you are here and you are healthy!!

 

 

 

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